You see there's just no getting away from the fact, that us Brit's are on another planet in terms of 'telling it like it is', especially when compared to the Americans where I am. We know we sometimes have a reputation for being blunt, very direct, proper, sarcastic, in yer face if pushed and at times, stand off'ish. But it's what we know, because that's how we are raised over there, in much the same way as you are all raised to say "have a nice day"!And despite my more than 3 years here, it appears I haven't lost all these national traits. Now I know I have seriously reined in the sarcasm, or I'd have no friends, and I do. When I do use it, I am careful about how, when and where, as it's true that many Americans just don't get it and think you're rude. It's a good job people can't read my mind at times though, or they'd be shocked rigid and I'd be a social pariah! I do alot of tongue biting! I already know that some of the people I work with, think I'm generally outspoken and often about things they either don't discuss, or only in hushed voices. How can I tell? Well I seem to make them laugh alot, gasp in horror or glee, and I sometimes get the impression they're just waiting for me to chip in with my British 2 cents worth! They are also quite open and upfront with me about it at times. They're not at all funny with me, we get on very well and some of my closest friends are there, but I can tell I'm seen as 'different', but then I am of course! There are times when I'd like to give some of my other American girlfriends a big Gin and really show them how to let their hair down. They are so restrained compared to my Brit' friends, it can be frustrating at times. I can only think of two friends here who could really give me a run for my money, and I'm thinking they have Brit' ancestors not too far down the blood line! I'm rambling a bit, but I guess my point is...here I was thinking I was doing a great job at blending in. Now I am wondering whether this is true and what they really think of the local Brit' gal! I have good friends, so I know I'm doing okay, but it's sad in a way that I feel they rarely get to see the real me. Because I am already strictly moderating my social behaviour to fit in here and even that restrained version is apparently 'refreshingly direct'. I definitely need that trip to NYC, where I know I could let it all hang out safely! Now y'all know why I REALLY NEED this blog, someone pass the Gin!
Warning - I tell it like it is!
So yesterday the Hubster had someone I work with in his place of business. During general chat, this person asked if I was enjoying my job as Secretary at the school. He assured this person I love it and they replied they really enjoy working with me, which is nice to know. They then continued to say something along the lines of "yes I love that she always tells you it exactly as it is, you know where you stand with her, unlike some there. You tell her, I'm a fan anyway"!! OK!! So my immediate response on hearing this was "well does that mean other people aren't?" Now the Hubster reassured me this was not what was mean't, but it got me thinking and remembering some odd, or semi-outraged laughter and looks I have received at times.